Tomorrow Never Comes – Start Living for Today

Tomorrow never comes; once tomorrow gets here it’s today. Waiting for tomorrow to do what you should have started long ago is only going to keep you from ever succeeding.

It’s so easy to get into the habit of saying “Wait” or “I’ll do that later” instead of taking up the mantel of responsibility and just getting on with living life fully today. This isn’t saying you have to ignore the facts:

  • Yes, the timing must be right to pursue your dreams.
  • Yes, you have to get the right obligations out of the way, like taking care of family, children, elderly parents, if that’s what you are supposed to do.
  • Yes, you may have to finish the fight on the hard challenge that have come your way.

But once those have gone and you know the time is now, you have to get started on living the true purpose of your life.

  • Do you ever wonder why certain people have a yearning in the heart to do something big?
  • Do you think this is a universal yearning or do you think some people are content to be where they are in life?

It seems that for some the yearning is stronger or more real than others. I believe everyone is born with a purpose to fulfill in life that will leave the world a better place as a result. That task may be small or only touch one single life. But touching that life will cause a ripple effect that will reach out to places unknown.

I also believe that some people refuse to do what is on their heart. Knowing that there is a great thing to do, they refuse to answer that life calling and ignore it until life is over for them.

  • You know in your heart that you are supposed to be doing more.
  • You know you are supposed to be doing greater things.

I believe a life purpose is set in the heart of every person at birth. When you refuse to heed the persistence of that life calling, you live a life unfulfilled.

  • Are you denying the call of your life purpose?
  • Are you letting the past, or your fears, or unforgiveness, or confusion keep you from identifying what is great about you so you can start sharing it with the world?

I’ve been in settings where the most unlikely person got up and made a presentation that changed the direction of everyone in the room. Through very simple words or a brief exercise or by sharing a piece of art or playing a simple arpeggio, lives were changed.

What about you?

What are you supposed to be doing with your life? When will you start doing it? Drop a comment and tell us your commitment to Live Live Fully Today!

Also, check out the lesson of Queen Esther.  She probably never thought her day would come either but teaches Christian Business Women to wait on the Lord who will reveal your life calling in due time.  Click HERE to check it out.

Why Do You Hold Back?

Does it feel like you’re holding back on your real purpose and talents?  Do you feel that you’re only living life half way?  Don’t get too hard on yourself if that’s what you feel.  There seems to be some type of epidemic going on with professional, mid-life women. 

Today I had the chance to really get down and real on this topic with some good gal friends.  I told them that I’m revamping my life, business, and approach to things.  I’m letting go of stuff that just isn’t working anymore.  Sure it means walking away from projects that have taken a lot of time and money.  (The money part hurt somewhat I must admit).  But I had to figure out that it was time to just “cut bait” as they say. I came to the realization that I’m throwing good money after bad by trying to make something work that isn’t going to get anywhere.

Sure , my ideas were good, if I wanted to work half-way for the rest of my life. Instead of looking at my true talents and abilities, I had become a copy cat. Just like the thousands or maybe even tens of thousands of other people on or off the Internet, I had put my talents into a little box that only repeated what others were doing but in a different way. 

I had let go of what makes me unique.  So I had to stop, do some really hard praying about it and make the decision to start over again – fresh.

I’m feeling great now and I wanted to share this with my buddies.  Sometimes you have to just know when to stop and start over again. The time is now – not tomorrow or another day from now.  The time is now.  When you know it’s time to start living fully, you have to stop holding back with your life.

What Does Holding Back Do?

If you think about it, not living your life fully has no benefits for you or anyone else.  Here’s what I’ve found holding back does (these are not in any particular order) :

1. Frustrates you.  You live frustrated everyday. You can end the day looking back and wondering “what did I achieve today – anything?”  That comes from living outside of your purpose. You can’t feel like you’ve progressed or added to the goodness of life because whatever you did for that day didn’t take you any higher in knowing or being.  It was just a repeat of yesterday and the day before.

2. Keeps You Depressed. Depression is a lot of what it says – something that presses you down. The feeling of being heavy and carrying useful weights is a sign of depression. You don’t feel that your mind is working fully.  In fact, you might even worry that you’re not thinking straight and might be “losing it.”  You’re not challenging yourself to think better.  Holding back requires that you don’t come up with new ideas or better thoughts.  It requires maintaining a depressed point of view.

3. Makes You “Un-Exciting”: Do you know any woman, including you that doesn’t want to be considered an exciting person?  It’s only natural to want to be someone others have an interest in.  But holding back on your life talents and real purpose means you have nothing to add to the conversations that surround you.  The best you can do is just agree or disagree with what others are saying.  Sometimes you can’t even do that because you’ve stopped having confidence in your opinions. It’s exciting to have ideas and thoughts but holding back doesn’t allow that to happen.

4. You Stop Seeing the Light: Something that keeps people going when times get difficult it’s knowing there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. That means you see that spark of hope to get you through the tough times.  But holding back means you’re not moving forward towards anything.  You’re essentially standing still. You don’t want to move out of your comfort zone because you’ll have to think about new things.  Instead, you go where you’re accustomed to going, do what you always do, read the same books over again and watch the same TY shows – and a lot of reruns.  You avoid the light and put a screen over anything that might try to shine through. Living in the dark is how you stay on hold.

5. You Live Cluttered: Have you stopped to consider that holding back means keeping yourself surrounded by old stuff, too much stuff and a never -ending to-do list?  Clutter can constipate life flow. Instead of getting new ideas you’re always trying to finish up old stuff.  Instead of getting something new and fashionable to wear, you put on the same old thing you’ve worn for five years and never feel comfortable and beautiful. Instead of trashing junk you keep it in case it pays off but all that does is take up space where something of beauty should be. Holding back means holding on to what no longer has usefulness in your life.  You have to let go to move ahead.

I suppose the question still remain “why do you hold back?'” Hopefully putting some of the things out in front that result in holding back will jog something in your mind to make you think about this.  Why do you hold back?  When you do you intend to start living?

Organize and Write Your Book Tonight

Professional women, are you ready to write a book about your business or leadership experiences? Maybe you want to write a book to promote your special cause or non-profit organization? Maybe you want to record your professional memoirs? No matter the reason, writing your book will not be difficult once you get your thoughts organized and ready to put on paper. Follow these 7 simple steps and get your professional book going quickly.

1. List Your Thoughts
Are your ideas all over the place? Does your mind feel jumbled with everything you want to write? Slow it down by writing out lists of ideas you have on book topics. Once you write the list, go through and categorize them into topic areas. For instance, say you want to write about when you traveled through Europe with a backpack and became a travel agent? Maybe you’re ready to share lessons about your participation in protests or voting events in the 60’s and how it led to your political career? Perhaps you want to write about a hobby such as gardening or golf? Just go ahead and put the topics your interested in into categories.

2. Add to the Categories
Add additional information to each category. You might have a long list by now. Of all the topics you have, select the one that excites you the most or that you feel you have the most material on and focus on that one to start. Put all of the information for that topic on a separate paper so you can concentrate on that for your eBook.

3. Select the Chapter Headings
Out of the information in each of the lists you created, select a topic that will serve as a chapter heading. Take the strongest and most focused statement to serve as chapter heading. This will help you focus your chapters. Put everything you listed about that that topic into logical sections or an outline to form the chapters of your book.

4. Organize Chapters
Be sure the topics you listed underneath each chapter heading make senses to go with that topic. You can adjust this list later as needed. Put the information in logical order as you would find in a table of contents in a book. Pull out one of your favorite books to serve as a model or guide.

5. Fill in Chapter Material
Start to write subtopics in each section. Write as much as you know without having to think too hard. When you have exhausted what you already know, you might already have enough for a book. If not, research additional information or ideas to add. Go online and pull up the years you are talking about. Look for historical information from that time period to trigger more memoirs. Put in some more facts and information.

6. Keep It Focused
Your Book does not have to be lengthy. Some books by professional authors and leaders are only 50 to 75 pages. That is not very much writing. In fact, with 40 pages of writing, a front cover, table of contents, dedication page and disclaimer and copyright page and you have your 50 page Book ready to go.

7. Write the Introduction and Summary
Introduce the topic of each chapter with a two to three sentence introduction and write a summary for each chapter of the same length. Be sure the introduction provides teaser information that makes readers desire to keep reading. The summary should not introduce new materials but summarize the primary focus of the chapter.

Professional women with years of business and leadership experience have some of the most exciting first-hand experiences to share with others. Forget the excuses about not being able to write your book. As you put these ideas into place you will see how simple it is to get an book written in a very short period of time. You just have to get started to make it a reality.

Ideas to Action for Start-Up Business Success

 Do you believe you can be a successful woman in a start up business? Woman spend millions of dollars each year reading about business, trying to learn new “systems”, taking workshops or even earning academic degrees to understand how to start a business.  All of this is done in order to be successful in an independent business. 

But not everyone is successful in starting a business, including the brightest women of all.  Overall, three out of five small businesses fail before their second year in business. This is a large figure and gives the chances of failure a better percentage of happening than the chances for success. You can help your chances of success by following a few simple ideas for start up business success: 

1. Put what you learn into practice. 

All of the information in the world will do you no good if you don’t apply it to real world situations of building your business. Don’t be overwhelmed by the amount of information in front of you. Take one or two ideas at a time and focus on developing those into actionable steps. Don’t move on until you apply those concepts. When the new idea is comfortable, get ready to find another new idea. Of course, this means that you have to put the ideas into priority order so that it makes sense to apply these steps in order. 

2. Seek new ideas 

Even though you have a lot of information already, don’t stop looking for new ideas that keep you on the cutting edge of your industry. Subscribe to business oriented newsletters or ezines online. You can find these by the dozens by searching on words like, “business start-up, entrepreneurs, how to start a business.” With each newsletter, find at least one idea to put into action as quickly as possible. This is a way to take a positive step to making your business dream come true. If you get a newsletter that fails to provide at least one new idea for you within a few months, unsubscribe to that newsletter and find another instead. 

3. Drop ideas that don’t work 

Every suggestion you find may not be appropriate for you and your business. Be smart about selecting the right opportunities for you. For example, a suggestion might be to send direct mail postcards to your customers. But if your customers only like to receive information by email, you will only waste time and money using a direct mail techniques and end up frustrated. That means you have to really understand your business and customers before putting ideas into practice. Not every idea will work for you. Knowing your true target market and what your goals are will help you eliminate good things that are not good for you. 

These three ideas are just the tip of the iceberg of ideas of what you can do to have a successful start up business. The main idea is that business start up success is absolutely possible for you. Take time to put good ideas into practice. Learn from the successes of others and start with one or two ideas at a time. You could soon find yourself heading straight towards business start up success and be the business woman others come to admire.

Women in Leadership, The Lessons are In Your Story

When doing a study on women’s leadership, I found it necessary to conduct extensive interviews with women in leadership positions. To do this, a research survey was designed to ask focused questions on what gives a woman her unique leadership ability.  Still, when the women leaders were asked to answer these questions about their leadership skills, many of them couldn’t find a way to identify exactly what it was that gave her the ability to be a leader.  

Being a leader was so entrenched in these women’s very being that separating out the activities of leadership didn’t seem possible.  They just did what came naturally without thinking about it.  So it was necessary to take a different approach. Instead of asking the women to name the skills that made them a leader, they were asked to simply talk about their story as a leader. Having the chance to talk about their leadership stories was the key to finding the most important lessons from women leaders.  

The lessons were in the story.   

As the women simply talked about their leadership experiences, exciting stories began to emerge. 

One woman told the story of how she had decided to lead the fight for quality education in her community. With a group of other parents, she went to the City Hall to talk to the Councilperson about doing something to bring better educational opportunities to the schools in their community. When the group arrived at City Hall, everyone turned to her to be their spokesperson. That was her moment of becoming a leader.  

Another professional woman related how the leaders in her company needed some innovative ideas to help market a new line of educational products to an adult population. She knew how to work with this target group because she had taught adult education for years in a past job. So even though she was not in a leadership position with the company she decided to offer her suggestions.  As a result, her ideas created strategies that brought in a significant increase in sales for the company. This led to her being promoted to a leadership position in a new division in the company. 

Describing Behaviors is Not Always Easy 

Sometimes it is not easy to describe certain behaviors, such as leadership. But when you hear the stories behind the situation or event, you can find the lessons of the behaviors in that story. 

Finding and sharing lessons in stories can provide a way to mentor others, particularly to mentor other women, something that doesn’t happen enough. Within the words of a story, you can share the steps you taken, the insights gained, and the wisdom you use to put steps into action. 

Women can be great storytellers. Have you thought about how you can use your storytelling ability to share your leadership lessons, or other lessons with others? Think of how effective you could be when you learn how to find the lessons in your story and use them to mentor others.