Tomorrow Never Comes – Start Living for Today

Tomorrow never comes; once tomorrow gets here it’s today. Waiting for tomorrow to do what you should have started long ago is only going to keep you from ever succeeding.

It’s so easy to get into the habit of saying “Wait” or “I’ll do that later” instead of taking up the mantel of responsibility and just getting on with living life fully today. This isn’t saying you have to ignore the facts:

  • Yes, the timing must be right to pursue your dreams.
  • Yes, you have to get the right obligations out of the way, like taking care of family, children, elderly parents, if that’s what you are supposed to do.
  • Yes, you may have to finish the fight on the hard challenge that have come your way.

But once those have gone and you know the time is now, you have to get started on living the true purpose of your life.

  • Do you ever wonder why certain people have a yearning in the heart to do something big?
  • Do you think this is a universal yearning or do you think some people are content to be where they are in life?

It seems that for some the yearning is stronger or more real than others. I believe everyone is born with a purpose to fulfill in life that will leave the world a better place as a result. That task may be small or only touch one single life. But touching that life will cause a ripple effect that will reach out to places unknown.

I also believe that some people refuse to do what is on their heart. Knowing that there is a great thing to do, they refuse to answer that life calling and ignore it until life is over for them.

  • You know in your heart that you are supposed to be doing more.
  • You know you are supposed to be doing greater things.

I believe a life purpose is set in the heart of every person at birth. When you refuse to heed the persistence of that life calling, you live a life unfulfilled.

  • Are you denying the call of your life purpose?
  • Are you letting the past, or your fears, or unforgiveness, or confusion keep you from identifying what is great about you so you can start sharing it with the world?

I’ve been in settings where the most unlikely person got up and made a presentation that changed the direction of everyone in the room. Through very simple words or a brief exercise or by sharing a piece of art or playing a simple arpeggio, lives were changed.

What about you?

What are you supposed to be doing with your life? When will you start doing it? Drop a comment and tell us your commitment to Live Live Fully Today!

Also, check out the lesson of Queen Esther.  She probably never thought her day would come either but teaches Christian Business Women to wait on the Lord who will reveal your life calling in due time.  Click HERE to check it out.

Start Your Business – Now!

Are you ready to give up the 9 to 5 “rat race” and think about starting your own home based business or Internet marketing business? You might be ready to become an entrepreneur home based business professional and you have the self-confidence to do it. So why shouldn’t you profit from your ideas instead of profiting another company owner?

Financially, you know you’ll never reach your desired goals unless you take the risk of being an independent business owner. But the question remains, what business would you start if you could? You can feel in your heart that tug that tells you to take the risk to do an independent business. Before you pack in that weekly paycheck, take time to evaluate yourself and your future with some real honesty. Take time to pray and hear the calling of your heart towards the right business for your life. You want to change your life for the better, so let’s start.

You Can Do It:  Do you know that you have the potential to do and be anything you want? You are created in the image of God so you have the ability to be creative in your life. Some of this creativity can be used to build a unique business that is really needed in the world. Most women have different perceptions of what is the ideal business life; and that ideal can range from owning a retail store operation to setting up a regular income from a web based membership site. Unfortunately, many women fail to reach their aspirations because they can’t get a solid, clear picture in their mind of what they want to do with their talents.

Search for Your Heart Desire:  Take the next few days and embark on a fact-finding journey that will be a life-changing experience for you. First, sit down and pray about exactly what you want in as an independent business owner. Be specific about identifying your passions so you can focus all your efforts on that particular desire. To reach real success in a business effort, seek the true desires of your heart and be ready to recognize the type of home based, internet marketing or retail business you want to spend time doing.

Seven Questions to Help You Know:  The woman who always changes her mind or who gives up easily when the going gets tough, will never get anywhere. If you’re a bit confused and aren’t sure what you really want in life take time to answer these questions:

  1. What makes your heart beat with excitement?
  2. What makes you happy?
  3. What are you constantly thinking of day and night?
  4. What do you want to do with the rest of your life?
  5. What do you enjoy doing?
  6. What are your obsessions?
  7. What things make you jump for joy?

Write down all your possible answers to the above questions. Write down everything, no matter how silly or unimportant it seems. Put all your desires on paper that answers any of the above questions.

When you complete responding to the questions, go back, study your answers and circle five to seven items that interest you the most from your list. Then, without taking a lot of time, evaluate and choose with your heart (emotions or intuition), not your mind, the one and only thing worthy to spend all your time and resources on and that brings out the best in you.

How to Make Anything Possible:  Now, what if you know you want to work in an area that might not be right for you because of your personal circumstances? For instance, what if you want to be the next star of a woman’s basketball team? If you’re over 20 years old and never played basketball, you’d have to realize that this is not a reasonable choice. But if you have a love for the sport, you can always think of something related to basketball or sports. How about starting a women’s basketball publication and interview stars of the game? Or perhaps a site that features women’s basketball sporting goods or a basketball memorabilia business?

Listen to Your Heart:  The most important thing to remember, no matter how impossible your idea seems to be, is to listen to your heart. Even if other people disagree with you, be firm with what you really want. Others may offer comments or advice, but the final decision is always yours to make as you are the one to live with growing and nurturing your business. Concentrate on what you want, not what others want.

Get Started:  Many business women are very successful in businesses that others tried to talk them out of doing. Some have Internet based businesses on a particular topic or have built membership sites to coach others.  These women followed the leading of their hearts. They spent time in studying their idea and planned the  direction that they were to pursue in their business.

Too many women live lives in quiet desperation, waiting until a perfect time to take the time to do what they really want to do in life. You can be feeling that type of desperation to and fear that time will pass you by before you realize your true calling in life. You will surely feel this way if you know you are supposed to start working on your dream and you keep hesitating out of doubt or fear.

Take the time now, to search your heart and decide what you really want in life more than anything else. Do the exercise above and be honest with yourself. You don’t have to share the information with anyone else yet. Just sit quietly and think about your responses. Keep your pen and paper nearby as ideas begin to come to you and write them down without judgment. You are getting ideas from your deepest understanding that you can use to form your future business plan; in fact, the more outrageous your ideas, the better. That means your original creativity is coming out and you are starting to really focus on what’s uniquely yours to do in life.

Begin honoring each moment in every day of your life. Live life, remembering, that you don’t know everything that’s ahead for you. Don’t take for granted the life that you have. Live every day as if it were the last day you had and stop leaving your dreams to be started next week, next month, or next year.

A New Leadership Look at Failure

If you are a woman in leadership, it might be time to take a new look at what you might have always perceived as failure. What if you could learn why you should look forward to failure, and how it can help you ultimately get where you want to go? For instance, when you read this statement, what’s your reaction? “There is no such thing as failure.”  Do you think it’s true? Maybe it makes sense to others but not to you. 

But what if you learned that you have the power to decide whether or not something is indeed, a “failure” or not, changing your whole idea about failure?  In fact, some highly successful people have already learned to look at the word failure in a very different way than others.  Let’s talk about why.

Why Others Watch a Leader Handle Failure 

Doing something that seems to be a failure shows the fact that you are only human. People watch how a woman of stature handles a mistake and how she recovers from it. Watching isn’t to be cruel, but it gives others hope that they too could recover from a mistake. 

Mistake making takes on a whole new form when a person sees how a leader faces and overcomes a problem. Everyone can have a failure or a setback but not everyone knows what to do about it. Making a successful comeback after a failure can increase your reputation, build confidence and show you as a person of integrity. The comeback doesn’t even have to be huge or earth shaking. It just has to happen. 

When “Failure” is Feedback 

What if starting today, the idea of failure took a radical change in your vocabulary? What if failure really meant a form of success? How could you acknowledge your success, even as you speak the word “failure”? Well, you can point out these ideas:  

  • That everything you learned in the process of getting to where you are now is not going to get thrown out — you learned good things to keep along with the stuff that didn’t work.
  •  That simply being able to recognize everything hasn’t gone according to plan, or achieved the desired outcome (i.e. “failed”), is in itself a positive outcome
  • That even if the specific method you used this time around wasn’t the right one for this situation, you can surely use bits and pieces and parts from what you learned in another project or idea.
  • That you can eliminate and not repeat the same behaviors the next time a similar situation arises. Failing to achieve a goal in one way just increases your creative understanding of what works for a situation, project, or idea or what doesn’t.
  • That you’ll know to do things differently in the future. You will create in a new way to approach a problem and your creating will be quicker and more confident as a result of knowing what not to do? 
  • That the experience has enabled you to grow in some way. Adversities, set backs, failures, hard times — all of these things only make you a stronger and more confident person. 

Failure can simply be a great way to get you to pause in the midst of your process, and get some critical information to indicate that you may need to change directions, try something new, continue your learning, or shift your focus. 

Imagine what would happen if you didn’t get that feedback, and continued endlessly along the wrong path, towards the wrong goal, or without ever learning a new approach? It not a pretty thought. Therefore, make time to rethink the idea of failure. Failure can really be seen as positive feedback, providing information that gets you back on the right track! Without feedback you would surely be lost. The key is to quickly identify what isn’t working so you can change direction, try something new, or shift your focus. 

How would thinking of failure as a welcome invitation to understanding a better way to pursue you life dream change your thinking? Here are some tips: 

  • Always have a clear idea of where you want to go and continue to re-evaluate it as you move forward
  • Identify specific milestones or markers along the way, to let you know you’re on the right track and celebrate each success
  • If something doesn’t appear to be working, or working fast enough, don’t hesitate to try something new
  • Continually learn from others. These can be people you work with, experts in your field, mentors, or leaders that have travelled a similar road.

And always remember: 

You don’t have to stay where you are in life. If things are not working in the direction you are headed, stop and go another way. If you tried something one way, make a change in your activity until you find out what really works. Life is a series of starts and stops. Just think of how much experience you have in different areas of life when you try something and learn new things from that experience.

Keep trying new things; never plan to stop learning, trying, experimenting, and creating. This gives a women in leadership the confidence needed to succeed. Consider the idea of rethinking failure as a way to reach success and strengthen your leadership skills instead of a way to set you back. You will take more risks, try more challenges and increase your overall successes.

Push Through the Fear to Succeed

Everyone has certain fears.  To say you don’t is denying being human.  A fear that most people deal with from the biggest celebrity to the woman next door is the fear of failure.  No one wants to fail, no matter how small the potential failure might be. Fear of failure can keep you up at night and keep you from trying new things. A fear of failure is the major reason most women never reach their full potential. 

One  huge difference between women who achieve the life they want to live and other women is that they learn to face their fears and control them.  They refuse to let the fear of failure control them or hold them back. Decide to stop letting the fear of failure steal the goodness you deserve and desire in life.  Here are a few keys to get fear under control. 

1. Keep the Big Picture in View. Stop looking at the little picture in a situation. Instead, step back and look at the big picture.  In the whole scheme of things, in the whole of your life, how big is the situation that you really fear? Are you trying to get a job and afraid you won’t?  What’s the worse that can happen?  Are you trying a new business and afraid it won’t work out?  What can you do to be sure that it will work out instead?  Stepping back to take a bigger look at the situation takes away a lot of fear because you realize exactly how the situation fits into a bigger picture. 

2. Take a Positive Outlook. One reason fear can set in and stifle your actions is because you start off thinking negative.  If all you think about is how awful something is going to be, of course you’re going to have fear.  In fact, that means you start to create the foundation for the failure to happen.  Remember, what you concentrate on you draw to you. If you really think you are going to fail, the likelihood is that you will.  As bad as it sounds, you usually get the desire of your heart in life. 

You might not think that you are drawing failure to yourself but thinking only negative is doing just that.  Adjust your thinking.  Start thinking about how wonderful it will be when you have a positive outcome instead. Say a prayer, recite positive affirmations and do positive visualizations of the best outcome possible. 

3. Stop and Breathe.  Does fear seem to overtake you sometimes?  Does it make you feel like you can’t even breathe?  There’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking a few moments throughout the day when needed to step back, take a few deep breathes and stop feeling overwhelmed by the fear.  Often, fears are built up in the mind more than the actual reality of them. 

That’s not to negate that sometimes you really might have some terrible things to fear. That’s a whole different story.  But the majority of time, things are not as bad as you  make them out to be.  When you start to feel the panic of fear taking control of you and your decisions or reactions, step back, recognize the fear, become conscious of it, and assess it. Define the reason you’re afraid, analyze it and decide what you’re going to do about it. Take control of the emotion instead of letting the emotion take control of you.

4. What’s the Real Issue?  Fear is often about something that is hidden from your immediate thoughts.  In other words, you might think you’re afraid of one thing when it’s really another.  For example, say you get invited to a networking event that would be great to grow your business.  At first, it sounds great, but then you start to get afraid. You might think it’s because you don’t want to meet new people or that you won’t have anything appropriate to wear.

Instead of stopping to think about what you’re afraid of you allow an unconscious fear to keep you from something you really need to.   Stop to analyze what your feelings.  Perhaps you know that people at that networking event will have to make a short introduction of themselves and their business.  The idea of speaking in front of others is what you really fear. When you analyze a situation, take control of it.  Plan your presentation well ahead of time.  Practice it until you feel comfortable. Instead of letting an unconscious fear keep you back, figure out what you’re afraid of and do something about the fear.

5. Prepare Yourself Better. Fear of failure is often based on not feeling prepared to meet new challenges that confront you either in an expected or unexpected way. When you don’t feel equipped to meet challenges you become afraid to get caught unprepared.  But you will always feel that way if you run from challenges instead of meeting them head on. 

The only thing to do is get prepared.  If necessary, take courses to improve your knowledge in a certain area. Get coaching or mentoring from someone with a lot of experience in the areas you want to learn. Go to museums, take trips and meet new people. Listen to opinions, read books, and watch movies in another language. Your mind is yours to grow so take control of what you know and increase your knowledge to overcome fear of failing in new areas.

When it comes to fear, you have two choices – control your fear or let it control you. Accept that feeling fear is simply a part of being human. The choice is yours to learn how to control your fears so you can succeed anyway.