Who is Leading Your Work?

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do and your plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16:3

Being a good leader in your business is something every Christian business women should strive to do. I love the topic of leadership. I studied women’s leadership styles when earning my top degrees and continue to work with women in leadership today.

But when it comes to leading your business, many steps can be shared about how to go about this task; what to do first, next and so on. The question a Christian business woman must ask herself however, is who is really leading my business? It is often important to just stop to be sure you are listening to the right leader in your life. Make that leader your Lord.

Leading on your own without spiritual guidance can be a recipe for disaster. I know too many women who get so busy and stressed out they forget to pray even once during any day.  Before soon, they are struggling to keep themselves calm. Some even find themselves in a real fix with workers, bosses or clients. Tempers may flare, bad decisions could be made, anxiety might reach an all time high.

Instead of falling into traps set by the world, schedule prayer into your day. Actually write a time on your daily calendar when you will stop to bow your head in prayer. You might figuratively bow while doing something else. The point is to take concentrated time to talk to your real leader.

I do this in the car on the way to and from work and when I go to between meetings during the day. What a great time to talk to the Lord. When things get rough or a difficult decision needs to be made, I turn to the real boss of my life.

It didn’t come naturally to do this; thinking about prayer first isn’t what’s taught in most business schools. It’s up to you as a woman of God to do the right thing?

And why wouldn’t you? It’s having the privilege to walk right into the top CEO’s presence whenever you want to ask a question, sit to talk or to just express yourself.  The CEO is the one with the answers, He’s the one to let you see the big picture when you get stuck in the small stuff.  You get to rise above the world and see things from a spiritual perspective that sheds light on the material natural world. Why pass up the opportunity to go right to the head person? Yet too many women do so on a daily basis, ending up feeling all alone without a friend, mentor or guidance.

Make prayer a part of your daily tasks. You can just talk about your day, express how things are going, talk as if to your best friend. I challenge you to try this starting today.

Smart Ways to Free Yourself from Guilty Feelings

If you are human, you have made mistakes before. Some of these mistakes can lead to feelings of guilt. But, you don’t have to live with guilt. There are ways to move on with your life.

What is guilt? It is best described as the feeling of inadequacy that follows a mistake or a blunder. Sometimes, it isn’t even a blunder to anyone other than to the person feeling guilty.

It is not uncommon to make mistakes. We are all capable of it. But what follows that mistake? If someone else is hurt physically, mentally or financially, you may feel a sense of responsibility to make it right. This is the beginning of guilt.

Whether you hurt someone intentionally or by accident, confessing the wrong can put the situation in perspective. Either the person will forgive you or not. If it is a criminal act, you will be punished or absolved of guilt according to the law.

But, even after all of this happens, what can make a person continue to feel bad about what they have done? Guilty feelings that continue usually start before the incident that evoked the guilt.

What can cause guilt? Here are a few suggestions.

* Criticism – If you are exposed to criticism all the time, you may feel inadequate. This inadequacy could be directed at you or at a certain task you perform.

* Lack of resolution – If you can’t talk to the person you hurt then there is a distinct lack of closure. This can result in you making up scenarios in your mind that revolve around feelings of not being forgiven for the act. You may try harder with others to not hurt or offend them as a result of not being able to make amends in this case.

* Unfulfilled expectations – Some people feel guilty just because they can’t live up to others’ expectations. They feel the disappointment over what they are not, so that who they truly are doesn’t seem to matter.

So how can you counter guilty feelings?

* Take a realistic view of yourself – Each person makes mistakes. Use them as learning experiences. No one is perfect, but you can try to do better the next time.

* List your good qualities – We all have some. Keep this list handy for times when feelings of inadequacy creep back in. Post it on your refrigerator and the bathroom mirror.

* Avoid comparisons – It is the kiss of death. Sure, we all do things differently, but that doesn’t make one method better than another. If you compare yourself to someone else, you are sure to come up short on some point. That is a good way to trigger debilitating guilt.

* Counter negative thoughts – Stop negative thoughts about yourself in their path. When you have one, counter it with a positive affirmation.

Guilt is a destructive emotion that can hurt you long after the triggering event has passed. Learn to let go and move on.